Before we even had a diagnosis for Biddle, we discovered that the best way for us to operate was to have a routine.
Nothing overly strict or inflexible, just a comfortable predictability and flow to the day/week that gave her a sense of security and comfort. As the years have gone by we have tweaked the routine to suit our situation and Things ran reasonably smoothly.
After she was diagnosed with Asperger’s each different specialist has recommended tweaks to her routine and different ways of managing it. Some recommend strict adherence to avoid melt downs, others have recommended charts and lists and then we have one who has talked to us about having “no routine days and gently changing routine to help her adjust to changes that she has no control over (like not being able to go to the park because its raining)”.
All of these methods are valid and work brilliantly for different kids in different situations and on different points of the spectrum. It has been a learning curve for all of us as we have trialled new ideas and methods within our family.
“No routine” days don’t work for us. Not just because it doesn’t work for Biddle (meltdowns in Woolies are an event I will move heaven and earth to avoid, particularly in a small gossipy town like we live in), also because it leaves the rest of the family waving in the breeze. Her routines are as much a part of us as they are Biddle, we become a tad lost without the direction!
Mum’s of kids with Aspergers: how do you deal with the routines? What works for you?